I moved to London just about two weeks ago, since then something remarkable happened: the feeling of being thoughtful and questioning my purpose in life has gotten less. How can this be? Everyone – it makes no difference whether its a magazine, a blog or friends & family – always says living in big cities leads to mental health issues, loneliness and in extreme cases, self-destructive behaviour. Strangely though, in my cause the anonymity of city life allows me to distance myself from problems and fears, it will enable me to clear my mind.
You see, diving back into anonymous London life, where everyone is mostly focused on themselves rather than on their environment, allows me to find simplicity in life and work. Often, your best companion is your own mind, this ease brings you closer to your thoughts, away from all the noise. On the other hand, it also allows me to appreciate the importance of sharing emotions with an audience, based on my own temporally possibilities and my desire to share.
As such, you come to realise just how important distance can be throughout life;
Distance from failed friendships and love relationships – to understand and process your
Distance at work – starting with being more independent, standing your ground and forging more professional relationships.
Distance in terms of self-image – to make wiser, more rational decisions.
Distance plays an essential role in my life; it allows me to mute out the constant noise, to focus only on what matters, work, life, love, ambition – to escape the continual battle of self-ambition vs distraction.
If you can manage to find this balance, from being distant to being personally when desired or required, it will have a significant impact on your life. It will allow you to focus on yourself and create a stable base from which to socialise from, without getting lost in society’s noise. I guess it is also has a lot to do with the famous saying “everything in moderation”.
Most importantly, however, it’s a realisation and lifestyle that takes time and comes with experience. You have to make mistakes and ask yourself questions before you implement changes that will only result out of lessons.
With this said, let me leave you with my last thought. Our digital society often paints distance as a negative, something that illustrates failure – allow me to invite you and think differently. See distance and “offline” individualism as a strength, a chance to build yourself a strong mental foundation for approaching and dealing with our world’s noise in a more coherent, efficient and most importantly, less self-destructive, healthy manner.